Newsletter for January 30, 2026

"Me in elementary school—the era of wanting to control the party! 🎈"

Stomping My Feet vs. Turning It Over

Do you ever think to yourself: What should I be doing? I want to be doing more, but what exactly is it that I should do? For me, I’ve learned to trust God for those answers.

When I got sober, I was introduced to a concept in Step 3: “Made a decision to turn our will and our lives over to the care of God as we understood Him.” Having been raised Catholic and then attending the Episcopal Church for decades, this step has been marinating in me for a long time. It has taken on different meanings at every stage of my life.

I remember thinking it was insane that when I was struggling with a specific problem—let’s say, a relationship—I would walk into a meeting and the topic was exactly what I needed to hear. Was that a coincidence or a "God wink"? I believe it was the latter.

I’ve been in recovery for a long time now, but when I first heard Step 3, I was bamboozled! I thought, "You want me to turn over not only my life, but my family, my friends, and my relatives? NO WAY!" Since I was a little girl, I wanted to control every situation. I even recall my sister’s birthday being five days before mine; instead of embracing a joint celebration, I decided I wanted no part of it. If it wasn’t all about me, I was out! I thought if I didn't go, they wouldn't have the party. Boy, was I wrong. Looking back, I did this all the time. I never surrendered to God’s will—it had to be my way or the highway.

Today, as a 57-year-old woman, I do everything in my power to "let go and let God." What does that mean, exactly? It means that all throughout the day, I have to pause and give everything—and everyone—to Him. I cannot make things happen. I tried that for years, as I told you, and it didn't work. I have to trust that God has me, just like He had me in that meeting where I heard exactly what I needed to hear. If I trust, He delivers.

I cannot manipulate, pay for, or push my own agenda anymore. My personal "wants" in the moment don't really matter. When I was a child and didn't get my way, I’d stomp my feet and scream. As an adult, I’ve had the urge to do the same thing, but let’s be clear: it isn’t attractive!

Trusting that there is a plan—even when we don’t know what that plan is—is what I call surrender. I surrender each day. It isn’t always comfortable, but in the end, what is meant to happen will happen. When we change our perspective and let go, life has a way of falling into place.

You probably see this in your own life. When a situation just fits and everything works perfectly, you know it’s right. On the other hand, when you’re fighting everything and everyone, that’s your signal that you’re doing something wrong. You have to let go! There is no use in fighting. We must trust God.

This is not easy, but I can tell you from personal experience: it is the only way to handle life.

If you have any questions or need help getting to that place of letting go, please reach out. I’d love to hear your thoughts.

XO,

Bizzy

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