Newsletter for Friday November 7, 2025

Getting through the tough times....

When you are going though times when nothing is going your way, your job isn’t what you thought it would be, the husband you married years ago no longer makes you laugh and the kids that you raised have completely lost your phone number or they refuse to pick up the phone unless they are under severe duress! Have you ever been here? Maybe not the exact situations but you are buried in a life that you never expected!

That is the operative word, expected! Where did we get these expectations, from family, friends, the media and now I dare say social media. We all have these unmet expectations which leaves us feeling so sorry for ourselves. It is kind of pathetic if you think about it. If you were to take a helicopter view of your life, I think all those scenarios I described would have a completely different angle.

We live in a time where we can get things delivered to our homes in a matter of minutes, we have computers in our hands 24/7 and health care is available (even if we can’t afford it LOL) at our whim. All you need is the internet and you can get answers to all your problems, and we are still not satisfied.

It is time for all of us to change our perspectives.

We are weeks away from the official start of the holiday season, (Yes Home Goods and other retailers have decided it is time to have Christmas now, it is time to spend money but that is just another distraction) last I checked we are 3 weeks away from Thanksgiving and we have time! Not a lot of time but enough to take time to look at what you do have and with some rose-colored glasses and some optimism. We are all blessed beyond!

I have been watching a show on Netflix, Poldark which starts in 1783! Back then people had no running water, the medical care was abysmal, your husband would go out to war and you would never hear from him again. Not to mention you had no way to communicate with people unless you had a horse or some way to get into the town.

People must have been so lonely and today people are still lonely, and we can communicate in more ways than I want to get into in this newsletter. The point is our perspective and our expectations.

If you look at a glass half empty compared to half full you will be looking at a life where there is no happy, no gratitude and you got the short end of the stick! But let’s look at life with the glass half full! You job may not be what you thought but it gives you an opportunity to learn something new or challenge you in how to navigate difficult situations. Your husband might not be funny, but he really knows what makes you happy. He brings you your tea every evening, how blessed are you! Lastly, those kids you raised may be having the times of their lives, they are experiencing things you always hoped they would, and they are living lives that are so fulfilled!

Which angle would you like to see? It is entirely up to you!

These next couple of weeks practice being grateful, let go of your expectations and just smile! Fake it till you make it!

Make the last months of 2025 count and before you know you will be welcoming in 2026.

Have a great weekend.

XO

Bizzy