Newsletter for May 30, 2025

First day of our european adventure

We’re not waiting for someday… we’re doing it now!

Hi friends,

As I write this, I’m sipping a café con leche in the heart of Madrid, watching the world go by—and feeling incredibly grateful.

My husband and I have officially embraced our empty nester chapter. With the kids grown and flown, we decided it was time to take advantage of this season of life and do something new—just the two of us. We're not doing it big and flashy, but we are doing it right—intentionally, joyfully, and without waiting for life to slow down.

We’ve always believed that adventure doesn’t have to be extravagant, but it does have to be intentional. So we packed our bags, took a deep breath, and said “let’s go.” This trip isn’t about showing off, it’s about showing up—for each other, for joy, for new experiences.

I’ll be sharing snapshots and reflections throughout our travels across Spain and Italy, so if you’re not already following along on Instagram and TikTok, now’s the time. Expect a few laughs, some beautiful sights, and a reminder that it’s never too late to say yes to new chapters.

Adiós from Madrid for now—more soon from wherever our feet (and hearts) lead us next.

With love,
Elizabeth “Bizzy” Chance
#BizzySays

Newsletter for May 23, 2025

It’s All in Your Head!!!!!

Isn’t life funny? We try so hard to predict the future—and then obsess over the past. We replay conversations, second-guess decisions, and imagine every possible outcome for what might happen next. But here’s the truth: we can’t go back, and we definitely can’t know what’s coming. So why do we live in our heads so much?

Regret, remorse, shame… those feelings are heavy and draining. And sure, we can learn from the past (that part’s important!), but staying stuck there? That’s a waste of energy. You can’t change what’s already happened, no matter how many times you replay it.

And don’t even get me started on trying to predict the future. If we could do that, we’d all be Powerball winners, right? I’ve had moments where I knew everything would go smoothly because I had the right mindset, the right plan, the right everything… and guess what? Sometimes it turned out way better than expected—and other times it crashed and burned. That’s life.

Recently, I caught myself preparing (and over-preparing) for a big event. I played out a dozen different scenarios in my head. What if this happens? What if that happens? Honestly, it was exhausting. Looking back, I wish I had just stayed present and trusted that I’d be okay no matter what.

God (and plenty of wise spiritual teachers) remind us to live in the moment for a reason. Because this moment is the only one, we’ve really got. And when I actually do that—when I stop the future-tripping and release the past—I feel peace. Real peace. That’s where joy lives.

If something from yesterday is still bothering you, ask yourself: what was your part in it? That’s the only thing you can change. We can’t control other people. We can only grow ourselves. That’s where humility comes in.

Today? I feel good. This moment is sweet. And what’s next? Who knows! But I trust it’ll unfold exactly as it’s meant to.

Wishing you a peaceful, present, joy-filled Memorial Day weekend.
No future-tripping. No regrets. And if you do have a regret—what are you going to do about it?

Big hugs and lots of love,
Bizzy
Host of Conversations with Bizzy

Newsletter for May 16th, 2025

My Daughter the Attorney — A Mother’s Pride

Tomorrow, my daughter graduates from law school!

I still remember when she was little—wanting to be strong, like her brothers, and always using her voice. Even back then, she knew she was smart. She knew she could do whatever she put her mind to. She never gave up. Ever.

College wasn’t easy. She moved to a new part of the country, far from what she was used to. It was uncomfortable at first—different, even overwhelming—but she adapted. She pushed through. And in the end? She didn’t just survive—she loved it. That city still holds a special place in her heart.

This weekend marks her first real graduation. COVID stole the first one. There were no in-person ceremonies, no parties, no big moments—just our family huddled around a computer screen. It was a loss. And it hurt. But she kept moving forward.

Today, Hadley goes by they/them. And yes, as a mom, it’s an adjustment. But it’s their life, their choice—and I respect that. I love my child. I want them to be happy, healthy, kind, and fulfilled. That’s what truly matters.

Hadley set their mind to becoming an attorney, and they did it—all on their own. I’m beyond proud. Whoever has the honor of working with them in the future (after they pass the bar!) will be incredibly lucky.

Motherhood hasn’t always looked the way I imagined it would. It’s been challenging, confusing, and at times, heartbreaking. But it’s also brought me closer to God and to the Blessed Mother. I pray every night for acceptance and peace. I know in my heart that God has a plan—even if it’s different than mine.

This weekend is a celebration of strength, courage, and perseverance. Hadley, you’ve inspired me. You’ve taught me so much. And I love you fiercely.

To every parent out there: our kids may not become exactly who we envisioned, but that doesn’t mean we stop loving them. We love them to our last breath.

Congratulations, Hadley. You did it. And I couldn’t be prouder.

With love,
Bizzy
Host of Conversations with Bizzy

Newsletter – May 9, 2025

This photo was taken in 2016 almost 10 years ago

Mother’s Day Reflections

Hey friends,

The other day I was talking with a girlfriend about how weird and hard it is to go from being everything to your kids… to being the last person they want advice from. She smiled and said, “Ah, you’re talking about the trans.”

Not transgender—the transition. Life’s full of them. And wow, going from “Mommy” to “Mom (please stop texting)” is no joke. But instead of sitting in that ache, I’m letting it go.

Imagine just being in the moment—right here, right now—because that’s where the grace is. Not in the past, not in what-if land. In TODAY.

So, this Mother’s Day, give yourself a break. Stay in your pajamas. Watch Netflix. Eat the bread. Celebrate your own way. Whether you’re a mom to kids, pets, or you’re remembering your own mom—this day is for you.

I used to wish my mom was different. I wanted her to be like someone else’s. But you know what? She was doing the best she could—and I didn’t see that until it was too late. Life has a funny way of teaching us that. And the truth? Everything changes. We grow. We learn. We love through it all.

Today, I’m thinking of my mom and of the Blessed Mother—our perfect mom who never stops loving us. She’s who I turn to when I need grace, patience, or just someone to sit with me in the hard.

Being a mom is tough, but it’s also the most meaningful thing I’ve ever done. Even if it looks different now, the love I have for my kids will never change.

Wishing you peace, laughter, and maybe a few carbs this Mother’s Day.

Happy Mother’s Day!
Love,
Bizzy
Host of Conversations with Bizzy

Newsletter for May 2, 2025

It’s May!!!

The only thing I miss about living up North? Spring. That magical moment when the little white snowdrops and tulips peek out of the dirt—just a touch of green against the brown soil. I LOVE that. Then the trees start to bud, the birds are singing, and my absolute favorite—the robins dancing in the rain, hopping through the grass in search of the perfect worm. Spring in the Northeast is truly special.

I also miss that feeling when the kids come home from school, it stays light later, and evenings are filled with sports, practices, and life just buzzing all around.

But here’s the thing: I’m not looking back. I’m embracing where I am—right here, right now. Life in Florida is beautiful, and my relationship with God has grown deeper than ever. For a long time, I felt lost—and I think that’s totally normal for us empty nesters. Some people dive into wine or tennis... but for me, it’s been about finding a new rhythm, a new purpose.

Mother’s Day is around the corner, and I get to see my kids in two weeks! I keep thinking, I want to show up differently this time. Not as the naggy, pushy mom—but as someone who’s learned to let go and stay in her own lane.

Funny enough, I keep hearing about Mel Robbins’ new book Let Them. I haven’t read it yet, but the idea sounds familiar—because my youngest has been saying it to me for years: “You do you, Boo Boo.” And it’s true! You can’t change adult kids. They are who they are. And if you give advice or opinions without being asked, you just might get shut out.

We go from being our children’s everything—their bank, chef, chauffeur, therapist—to... well, someone they’ve outgrown. And that stings. But here’s what I’ve learned: our role changes overnight. No warning. And it’s up to us to pivot.

Change is hard—but look around! The birds, the bees, the plants, the trees—they all change with the seasons. So can we.

And this is where prayer comes in. I’ve been saying this one every day—sometimes ten times in a row:

“Oh Jesus, I surrender myself to you, take care of everything.”

It’s brought me so much peace. Try it. And if it helps you too, please reach out and let me know—I’d love to hear from you.

Wishing you a joyful weekend. It’s the Kentucky Derby and Spring is blooming! Get outside. Feel the sun. Remember—this life is a journey, not a destination.

Thanks for being here. And if this message resonated with you, share it with someone you love.

XO,
Bizzy
Host of Conversations with Bizzy

Newsletter April 25, 2025

Bizzy

“The Season of Softening”

Have you ever felt like you're running ahead of God’s plan, trying to fix, force, or figure it all out? Me too!!!!

But lately, I’ve been learning that real strength often looks like slowing down. Like forgiving ourselves — not because we deserve it, but because He already forgave us. Like trusting that the messy middle is part of the story, not the end. Amen!

And in that stillness, something beautiful happens. We realize that all the running was for nothing!

We start noticing people for who they are. We start reconnecting. We remember we’re not here to do life alone.

This week, I invite you to soften.

Let go of one old story you keep replaying.

Reach out to someone, even just to say: “Hey, I’m thinking of you.”

And above all, trust that where you are today is not where you’ll stay.

God’s working — even when we can’t see it.

With love,
Bizzy