Newsletter for May 23, 2025
/It’s All in Your Head!!!!!
Isn’t life funny? We try so hard to predict the future—and then obsess over the past. We replay conversations, second-guess decisions, and imagine every possible outcome for what might happen next. But here’s the truth: we can’t go back, and we definitely can’t know what’s coming. So why do we live in our heads so much?
Regret, remorse, shame… those feelings are heavy and draining. And sure, we can learn from the past (that part’s important!), but staying stuck there? That’s a waste of energy. You can’t change what’s already happened, no matter how many times you replay it.
And don’t even get me started on trying to predict the future. If we could do that, we’d all be Powerball winners, right? I’ve had moments where I knew everything would go smoothly because I had the right mindset, the right plan, the right everything… and guess what? Sometimes it turned out way better than expected—and other times it crashed and burned. That’s life.
Recently, I caught myself preparing (and over-preparing) for a big event. I played out a dozen different scenarios in my head. What if this happens? What if that happens? Honestly, it was exhausting. Looking back, I wish I had just stayed present and trusted that I’d be okay no matter what.
God (and plenty of wise spiritual teachers) remind us to live in the moment for a reason. Because this moment is the only one, we’ve really got. And when I actually do that—when I stop the future-tripping and release the past—I feel peace. Real peace. That’s where joy lives.
If something from yesterday is still bothering you, ask yourself: what was your part in it? That’s the only thing you can change. We can’t control other people. We can only grow ourselves. That’s where humility comes in.
Today? I feel good. This moment is sweet. And what’s next? Who knows! But I trust it’ll unfold exactly as it’s meant to.
Wishing you a peaceful, present, joy-filled Memorial Day weekend.
No future-tripping. No regrets. And if you do have a regret—what are you going to do about it?
Big hugs and lots of love,
Bizzy
Host of Conversations with Bizzy