Newsletter for August 8, 2025

Time…

Time is such a gift—and yet so many of us (myself included!) ignore it. Why is that? Ego? Distraction? Or maybe it’s just the habit of living in the future or the past. I think it’s all of that.

This week, I heard about someone I used to cross paths with when I lived in Philly. We weren’t close, but I knew him. He was my age—maybe a little younger. He went to sleep and didn’t wake up. He passed away in his sleep.

That hit me hard. It reminded me that this could happen to any of us.
This could be our last day. Our last hour. Our last second.
We just don’t know.

Now I’m not saying this to depress anyone or send you into a tizzy—
I’m saying it because peace and joy only live in one place: right now.
Yesterday is gone. Tomorrow isn’t here. All we have is this moment.

I spent so many years looking back—wishing I could undo things, replay moments, make different choices. What a waste of time. We can glance back to reflect, sure. But not to relive. The goal is to learn, not to punish ourselves.

Going over and over something you can’t change? That’s insanity.
Trust me, I’ve been there.

July brought a lot to the surface for me—fears, regrets, realizations.
I found myself staring at old versions of me. But I can’t go back to 40, or 50.
What I can do is reflect, grow, and pivot.

That’s the key: pivoting.
I need to change. And saying that? It’s humbling.

Humbling is different than humble.
Humbling is looking at who we are—not with shame—but with honesty.
It’s saying: this is me. This is how I’ve shown up. And now I want to do better.

When people talk about end-of-life moments, it’s always the highlights they remember. Never the mess. Never the pain. It’s the joy. The good stuff.

So here’s my challenge for the weekend:
🌿 Stay in the present.
🌿 Wiggle your toes.
🌿 Breathe.
🌿 Pray.

And every time you drift into the past or future, come back.
Take a bird’s eye view of your life. Find the good. Let go of the rest.
All you have is now. Embrace it.

And one last thing?
💛 Hug your loved ones.
💛 Say hi to a stranger.
It just might change your whole perspective.

Thanks for reading.
Have a beautiful weekend.

XO,
Bizzy

 #bizzysays #conversationswithbizzy

Newsletter August 1, 2025

Patience, Your Superpower!

Pause, Pray, Prevail!

A virtue right!!! Oxford’s dictionary definition of patience, is the capacity to accept or tolerate delay, trouble, or suffering without getting angry or upset.

I have had to be patient for the month of July and not make any decisions because I don’t have all the facts! To be completely honest I don’t know what to do! I have made so many rash decisions in my life that in the end I have regretted!

For instance, during Covid my car totally died, the drive shaft had split into two! After taking the car to the dealership, I really had no options but to buy a car! I knew I couldn’t afford a brand-new car, so I was looking for a used car. The options if you recall during Covid were abysmal! I mean buying a used car was like knowing that you were going to be ripped off! It was like going to a store when you are in distress and the only thing that fits is retail price and you have no other options but to get the dress! I have regretted buying that car since I got it! But what could I have done? I thought I had no options but that was the lie! The salesman won! I didn’t give myself the time and grace to go home without a car and just sit until I had the chance to make a rational decision.

Life is full of these instances where one is in a panic mode, and they believe there are no other options but to jump! And let’s face it, none of these situations is like the Titanic where your only option was to get on a lifeboat or you’re going down with the sinking ship.

Ironically enough most don’t have such dire decisions to make thank you God! But what we all do have is time. Time is the biggest gift we have and none of us know how much time we all really have but we should cherish our time and use it wisely.

It has taken me so long…to realize that time is a gift and I need to use it! Presently I have some really hard decisions to make, and I don’t know what to do. I want to react and go to option 1 or option 2 but I don’t know the right answer! I am stumped! Each day I pray and pray and pray and no answers come so I must sit! I can’t make another rash decision again! Time and time again after making rash decisions the results leave me in a state where I am always questioning why did I make this choice? I would imagine you reading this can completely relate.

My advice is not doing anything when you don’t know what to do. Yes, it will be uncomfortable, and you will want to do something because doing nothing is so impossible! We sometimes just decide because the uncomfortable feelings are too overwhelming that we jump! Don’t JUMP!

Sit, breathe and relax, go for a walk, journal and talk to friends (but don’t ask too many what their opinions are that makes it even more impossible) until the time comes where you know what to do! You know in your heart and in your soul that yes this is going to be the best decision for me, and I don’t think I will regret this!

Yes, you still can have regrets, but you will know that the decision you made was after long contemplation and prayer!

Lastly, I am excited that today is August 1, rabbit, rabbit, rabbit, and Tuesday the first podcast for this season is going to drop! I promise you don’t want to miss it!

Have a stupendous weekend and know this you are not alone! Reach out any time with questions and comments.

Thanks for taking your time to read this.

XOXO

Bizzy

#conversationswithbizzy #bizzysays

Newsletter for July 25th, 2025

Walking my girls

What a Difference a Week Makes!

One week you can feel totally lost—overwhelmed with worry, anxiety, and fear. And then the next? You feel lighter, more at peace… but why?

For me, I’ve learned that if I don’t use the tools in my spiritual toolbox—especially prayer and meditation—I get squirrely. Seriously.

This week, I made the choice to commit. I’ve spent an hour each morning in prayer. I start my day with warm water, salt, and lemon, and then I dive into the Hallow app. I LOVE this app. Honestly, I don’t know where I’d be without it. Over the past year and a half, it’s been a total game changer—my number one tool.

I listen to the daily gospel with Jeff Cavins, follow the current series, and then I sit quietly in meditation for 30 minutes. That time allows me to reflect, pray, and just be. And in that quiet, I remember: I’m not alone.

The fear, anxiety, and stress? They melt away.

Here’s the kicker: nothing in my life has changed. I’ve changed.

Waiting for other people to change or expecting them to do what you want is not peace—it’s insanity. Trust me, I’ve tried. I’ve spent 56 years trying to control people, and all it got me was frustration. And let’s be honest—nobody likes to be controlled (even though we see it happening all the time).

But getting still… listening to God? That brings me peace. True, deep, soul-level peace.

I never thought I’d be someone who says that, but here I am: promising you, when you humble yourself and recognize there is only one God—and it’s NOT you—that’s freedom.

And honestly, who wants all that control? Letting go and trusting is hard, but pretending you have a crystal ball is exhausting.

Another thing I’ve brought back into my life? Exercise.

I’ve been getting outside before 8am (it’s HOT here in Florida!) and walking for an hour. It clears my head and connects me with nature—it’s the best way to start my day.

So here’s my advice:
👉 Invite God into your life—every single day.
👉 Get outside and move your body.

You’ll feel the shift. I promise.

Wishing you an amazing weekend—and I’m getting so excited that it’s almost August! I’ve missed recording my podcast so much!

And if you or someone you know needs support, I’m back coaching and ready to help. Reach out: elizabeth@elizabethchance.com

XO,
Bizzy
Host of Conversations with Bizzy
(Formerly Busy Living Sober)

Newsletter: July 18, 2025

Hopeless

Feeling Hopeless? You’re Not Alone.

Do you ever feel hopeless?

I do. Sometimes I get caught in fear of the future or regrets of the past. And crazy enough, we’re taught as Christians not to fear—yet everywhere we look are reminders of just how scary the world can be.

When I’m in that place, I have to ask myself: What do I actually have power over?
Spoiler: Not much. LOL.

When I first got sober, it was drilled into me: we are powerless. And I was 100% powerless over alcohol. It's been almost 19 years since my last drink, and I still remember promising myself I’d “only have one.” But I never had one. The craving always started with the first sip—not the 47th.

That’s huge to acknowledge.

The moment alcohol touched my lips, my brain lit up like a Christmas tree. It felt like the answer to my prayers: I didn’t have to feel anymore. I didn’t have to spin. I was drowning out my own brain cells—numbing everything like anesthesia before surgery. Of course, it took a lot more alcohol to pass out, but it always came eventually... if I drank enough.

This idea of power—I think it started when I was little. I told myself, "I’ve got this. Don’t cry. Just run."
So many feelings push us to run, and most of those feelings can be summed up in one word: fear.

As a coach, my job is to help others recognize that powerlessness too. Whether it’s addiction to alcohol, food, shopping, work, or anything else that numbs us, the real work is in identifying the fear—and then learning how to calm it.

And that starts with building a new toolbox.

No, not hammers and wrenches. I’m talking about the tools that help you stay in the present. It sounds simple, but it's not always easy—especially when you're bombarded by the news, social media, and people who want to focus on everything we can’t control.

One of the tools I turn to often? Pen and paper.

When I write, I feel peace. A friend once told me, "Writing is like talking to God.” And I believe it. Every time I get my thoughts onto paper, I see things more clearly. I feel less hopeless.

Then I share what I wrote with someone I trust. And guess what? It doesn’t feel so scary anymore.
That’s freedom.

I think about my grandmothers. They didn’t have social media or 24-hour news. They had friends and family. But even back then, I bet they wondered: Can I trust this person with my secrets? That takes real respect, communication, and trust.

Let’s be honest—trust is hard these days. But it’s still possible. You can find someone safe. You might need to hire someone, and that’s okay. If that’s not an option, keep searching for the person who’ll hold your heart with care. Don’t give up.

Remember that old saying? “Where there’s a will, there’s a way.”
I believe it.

I'm cheering you on. And if you need help, reach out: elizabeth@elizabethchance.com

August is almost here, and I’m so excited to return to podcasting. I’ve missed it—and I’ve missed hearing from you, my listeners.

Have a blessed weekend and please remember:

You are not alone.
Love you all,
Bizzy